Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back With Compassion

By: Joyce Reeves

Whenever you are faced with someone from whom you are estranged, whether by indignation, dread, sorrow, or negligence, you are faced with the task of determining the kind of relationship you want to follow. Reconciliation demands a lot of energy and clear thinking. This is true if your ex boyfriend has messed up your life or if he moved out of no fault of his own. In this light it is important to know what you want from a renewed relationship and that your desires are clear so that you can move past the hurt and personal healing and self-reflection to the more active phase of getting your ex boyfriend back by reaching out to him and see what it is that you want to reclaim in the relationship.

No one can guarantee a positive outcome when you reach out through a hurt, angry silence. Chance and reconciliation go hand in hand. Relationships that have been ended because of misunderstanding, hurt, or anger can only be mended when one person in the relationship or both take responsibility to set things straight. Doing so requires incredible courage. Every time we face an ex boyfriend an say," Can I have you back in my life?" we lay bare our deepest desires and confess our human needs all to someone who has hurt us or whom we have hurt in the past.
Nevertheless facing trepidation is part of what makes us truly alive. Someone once said, "Life shrinks or expands according to one's courage." In your case, if you want to get back with your ex boyfriend, you must find the courage you need to initiate reconciliation. Majority of people are horrified but it is important to take the risk anyway. Whether your efforts bear fruit or are let down, you will know in your heart that you gave it the best shot and in doing so laid your heart on the line, signifying that you are a person willing to fight for a relationship.

Most people are terrified but it is important to take the risk anyway. Whether your efforts bear fruit or are thwarted, you will know in your heart that you gave it the best shot and in doing so laid your heart on the line, demonstrating that you are a person willing to fight for a relationship. Even though you have been hurt and feel guilty and afraid, you are demonstrating a rare trait as one who contends for the relationship that once was and is not.

Remember also that these questions will help you how to react to a gesture of reconciliation as you make your own; do I have the inner resources to handle the situation if things turn out differently than I anticipated or is this really the best time to do this? No matter what the circumstance, don't wait. Go ahead and take the risk anyway.

Reprinted from: Communication Skills Articles.

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