Is There Anything I Can Do to Get My Ex to Come Back to Me?

By: Jerry Waxman

Most people find themselves asking "What Should I Do to Get My Ex Back?" within days after a breakup. They start thinking and philosophizing about all the things that could have been done differently. Some even make plans for apology letters and other things that might get their relationship back.
This tends to be the wrong move because of one main reason: You can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. People become emotional and they often do not even know what led to the break up. They may not know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to use your energy trying to figure out where you went wrong.
The first main strategy to answer the question, "Is There Anything I Can Do to Get My Ex to Come Back to Me?" is to put the relationship out of your mind for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about the opposite sex in general. Set some realistic goals about how you go about meeting people and forming relationships.
You may have to give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it may work wonders.
This strategy will give you time to make gradual changes in your life, and changes in how you perceive relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how to proceed with your ex.
Do you still think you and your ex should be together? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with your ex, you should try finding out how they feel about you.
Now is your chance to be a little more direct when you go about getting your ex back. You need to use strategy, however. Do not simply beg them to get back with you. This is not a good time to be emotional.
Instead, you should be playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart, your ex is probably missing you too. Play hard to get a little (don't over do it) and show your ex that you are doing fine. This will inspire them to really rethink things.
If you were really meant to get back together with your ex this is when it will become apparent. Do not try to be too analytical. Over analyzing may keep you from acting the right way. Just take things slowly and play them cool and let things work themselves out.

Reprinted from: Communication Skills Articles.

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