Making Up With Your Ex Can Work

By: Alan Baxter

Love leaves a trail of "walking wounded." Our signifcant others get lost too easily in life through divorce, separation and breakups. Sometimes it is NOT the best solution. Maybe things became confused, mistakes happened, quick judgments were made and the price paid was high. Maybe making up has crossed your mind from time to time.

Maybe now you wish you could go back and change some of how you handled things. What if you had another chance to do it differently? What if you COULD have a do-over, would you want to find out how?

The divorce rate is very, very high. There are many lonely and angry souls walking in your shoes. Some will rush into the next relationship to seek shelter...which is generally a bad idea. The emotion and hurt haunt your waking thoughts and dreams, even if you try to ignore it.

This is a time to step back and really try to look at what happened and why. Now, this can be a hard thing to do without becoming overwhelmed by the emotions that are naturally attached to traumatic events like losing your relationship or losing your marriage. Your emotions will get in the way of trying to get a clear view of things and sometimes send you right back to "square one" in your efforts to see things clearly. But stepping back and thinking about things objectively it is what you need to do before doing anything else. We all heal at our own pace, and usually it is not as fast as we would like.

We are all imperfect and subject to distractions and temptations that can result in major damage to a relationship. By the way, that high divorce/break-up rate contributes to the problem every day by putting more and more lonely people "on the market." Lonely people can find themselves in a place where they are putting others at risk to satisfy their own needs. This only perpetuates and grows the problem, but what can we do to stop it? This may be a good time to consider making up rather than moving on.

Granted, some relationships are not "fixable." Especially ones that have deteriorated to physical violence and abuse. For safety's sake and the sake of any kids involved, it's probably better to move on and for one or both parties to consider professional counseling. However, in many cases a break-up can come from In some cases it's just a series of silly arguments or differing points of view between two people that can cause a breakup, and there very well could be a way to fix your relationship and get back the magic you once found together...and not contribute to the growing army of the "lost." and there may be a way to fix things and get back to the happy place you once shared together without putting two more displaced people on the market.

Keep in mind that there is no guarantee your next relationship will have happier results. If you have lost a love because someone who is basically good just messed up, then it's worth considering fixing your relationship even if it means learning to get past your own hurt to give things a second chance.

Reprinted from: Communication Skills Articles.

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