Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

By: Margery Senters

In this day and age, it's difficult to know the signs of an abusive relationships. And when we see the marks of the signs of abuse on a person's body, we almost can't afford to look at it. It's really hard to tell who's going to be the next victim of abuse. More often than not, those who seem alright and smart to choose the right partner in their lives are those who experience abuse.

Maybe she (or he) will blame herself or tell herself that things are going to change. Maybe on some level she believed she doesn't deserve any better. Nonetheless, as a friend you can help by spotting an abusive relationship before it is too late.

The signs of an abusive relationship vary with the age of the victim and the type of abuse. Signs of child abuse are actually comparatively easy to spot. You see, children are not quite as good at hiding things.

When they are being abused, they usually want to tell you on some level. They will often have physical marks on their bodies with no good explanation of where they came from. Sometimes they're quiet and withdrawn, or moody. Their parents may be overbearing or secretive, and keep them out of any extracurricular activities. These are just some of the most common about signs of childhood abuse.

If an adult is in an abusive relationship, the signs are pretty harder to spot. Every victim knows when they're being abuse, and they will try their very best to hide it, to not embarrass themselves and to protect their abuser, may be a partner or a parent, as well.

When they jump to their abusers aid, they are not only trying to convince you that the abuse is not happening, but trying to convince themselves. They will be louder or more vociferous than the situation calls for. They may also try to excuse the abuse by giving all sorts of reasons for why it happened and claiming that it was a one-time thing.

What's even more difficult to spot are the signs of emotional abuse. This is because there's no definite meaning of where emotional abuse begins, generally, it's all subjective. And that's the biggest challenge in spotting the signs of emotional abuse. You must get out of the relationship if you feel you are berated and excessively criticized. Don't wait until your partner hits you before you take action.

Reprinted from: Communication Skills Articles.

Margery Senters, once a victim of abuse, is an advocate to end domestic violence. She now shares the signs of abuse in a relationship. Join the Blue Movement at pattiaustin.com/blue.

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