What Happens with Ex Relationships

By: TD Powers

Memories and more memories plague you after a breakup. Yes your relationship is finished, but memories will keep coming back for a long time. Our senses will bring back the memories.

Your subconscious mind stores each moment of your life, to be brought back by certain triggers as a memory. When you smell a flower, it might bring back a memory of a Sunday afternoon picnic with your ex in a public park several years ago. You hear a song, and it brings you back to that concert you went to with your ex. The wind is blowing though your hair and the memory of an afternoon sailing on a sunny day comes back to mind. These are the enjoyable memories.

However, there is a disadvantage to the stockpiling ability of our intellect. The brain does not split the "good" memories from the "bad" ones. Remembering an incident is emotionally tied to the moment of recollection.

If you were in a rough relationship, the banging of a door could send off shivers over your spine. These memories are real and have a definite impact at the moment of recollection.

A while ago, a friend of mine, who is a Vietnam Veteran, and I were walking through a square to a Wendy's. Suddenly we heard the loud bang of a firecracker and within seconds my friend was flat on the ground. Immediately after he realized what had happened he got up and we went on our way again. During the meal he enlightened me as to what happened on the way and that his immediate response after hearing a loud noise is to "hit the deck".

He said that it reminded him about the most painful event he had experienced in his life. Each time that he hears a loud bang he sees a panoramic view of the incident and he clearly recalls all the details, the smell, the sounds, on the ground and in the air, from more than 30 years ago.

Don't let your relationship decline so that where a break up is the likely outcome and you are going to be left with only memories. If you feel that a separation of your marriage or relationship is about to happen, you must take the bull by the horns (no pun intended) at once. Help is available that will show you how to resolve your circumstances and put off a separation.

Reprinted from: Communication Skills Articles.

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